We recognize that many players experience fatigue, brain fog, pain, sensory overload, and unpredictable bandwidth. For this reason, we want you to know that it is okay to play and participate in whatever way works best for you.
Sudden Stops are Okay
It is okay to log off suddenly. If you need to go, no explanation needed. Sometimes you just run out of steam and need to head out. We understand.
Silence is Okay
It is okay to be quiet in the chat. You don’t have to talk. You can say hello or not. Feeling non-verbal? No problem. Sometimes it’s nice just to be in the same world.
A Slow Pace is Okay
It is okay to take it slow or return after a long absence. Pacing is king. Lurkers are welcome. The world will still be here when you get back.
Second Haven exists to be a safe, welcoming, low-pressure space for connection, creativity, and play, especially for players managing chronic illness or stress.
The following rules protect our supportive culture. These rules apply to Discord, Minecraft, voice, text, builds, and events.
Be respectful. Always.
- Treat all players with dignity, regardless of age, race, ethnicity, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion, ability, health status, or background.
- Hate speech, slurs, harassment, or demeaning language (direct or indirect) are not allowed, even as jokes or “just opinions.”
- If someone asks you to stop a behavior that feels disrespectful to them, stop.
This includes respect for BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ players, whose identities are not up for debate.
No harassment, bullying, or targeting
- Do not insult, mock, pressure, threaten, stalk, or single out other players.
- Do not repeatedly message someone who has not responded or has asked for space.
- Dogpiling, baiting, or encouraging others to gang up on someone is not allowed.
Inclusive language matters
- Use people’s stated names and pronouns.
- Do not question or invalidate someone’s identity or lived experience.
- Avoid stereotypes, assumptions, or “debates” about race, gender, sexuality, or disability.
You don’t need to fully understand someone’s experience to respect it.
Respect privacy and boundaries
- Do not pressure others to share personal details (health, trauma, identity, family, location, etc.).
- Do not screenshot, record, quote, or share conversations from Second Haven outside the community without explicit permission.
- What people share here stays here.
Boundaries
- Adults must maintain appropriate boundaries with teen players at all times.
- Grooming behavior, flirting with minors, or attempts to move teen conversations into private DMs is not permitted.
If something feels off, report it.
Keep content appropriate and non-harmful
- No graphic violence, sexual content, or disturbing imagery.
- No promotion of self-harm, eating disorders, or harmful behaviors.
- No encouragement of illegal activity.
If you’re unsure whether something is appropriate, ask a moderator.
Follow moderator guidance
- Moderators are here to protect the community, not to police personalities.
- If a moderator asks you to pause, redirect, or stop a behavior, follow their instructions.
- Repeated rule violations may result in warnings, mutes, temporary bans, or removal.
Reporting and support
If you experience or witness:
- harassment
- boundary violations
- unsafe behavior
- discrimination
- anything that makes you feel unsafe or unwelcome
Please contact a moderator privately. Reports are taken seriously.
Peer support spaces are not therapy
Some areas or events may involve peer support groups or coaching.
In those spaces:
- Do not give medical, mental health, or crisis advice.
- Do not tell others what they should do, feel, believe, or try.
- Share from your own experience only, and only if you want to.
- Listening and quiet presence are valid forms of participation.
No one is required to disclose personal information to belong.
A Final Note
Second Haven holds kindness, respect, and safety in the highest regard. These rules exist so that everyone, especially teens and vulnerable players, can participate without fear or pressure.